Sunday’s Message Outline: The Circle, Part 2


  • Review Part 1 (Problem is the circle)
  • Process: Own It, Confess It, Receive It, Leave It, Deal With It, Love It
  • Last Week: Own It
    • We don’t because we blame <>
    • ILL: Adam and Eve <>
    • APP: We blame by overcompensating, putting others down, <>
    • You’d rather talk about someone else’s story than your own
      • ILL: Facebook- embarrassing vs. It’s embarrassing
    • Own the Problem: What part of the circle is your responsibility? <>
    • Once you own the problem you have to deal with yourself / emotions
      • Deep breath, anxiety, uncertainty, confusion
      • ILL: Me learning about “shame”
      • You can only manage shame, not get rid of it
      • Shame says you are not enough. <enough, critical, demanding, performance (failue as a Dad, etc.), wrong, wimp, never enough at ….>
    • Shame is one of the biggest reasons you can’t get past your problem / blame.
    • The Process: Own It, Confess It, Receive It, Leave It, Deal With It, Love It


    • Read 1 John 1:8-9, “If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
      • If we claim we are without sin (and thus shame) you are in denial.
      • We deceive ourselves when we blame
      • Life has left you broken hearted.
      • Confession is acknowledging your shame before God. (Your benefit)
    • Verse 9: God is faithful to forgive.
      • Forgiveness removes shame and removes our excuse to blame!
      • With Jesus your shame and sin are removed, washed away.
      • Jesus hung in shame on a cross so your shame could be taken away.
        • It’s unfair. Your shame is not Jesus’ fault- but he owned it anyway!
        • In Christ there is no shame.
      • Pray your confession <how you don’t measure up>
      • Forgiveness in Christ is a free gift- freely given.
      • Like a real gift it cannot be enjoyed unless it is opened.
      • How do you receive grace- by faith. Our first response to that faith that Jesus removes our shame is in baptism.  Ananias said to Paul, “What are you waiting for?  Get up, be baptized and wash your sins away, calling on his name.”
      • Say, “Thank you.”
        • Don’t you say thank you when you receive a gift? I hope so!
        • “Give thanks in everything.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
        • Research- antiodote to shame is thankfulness
      • It begins by placing your faith in Jesus and it continues with gratitude.
      • TSN: Power comes in our life- shame is left behind- it is gone.
    • LEAVE IT
      • Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
        • Misapplied: Bootstrap
        • EXP: Despite my shame (not enough) through Christ I am enough.
        • APP: bitterness, jealous, one up people, complain, out talk you, rejoice with those who rejoice, other shoe to fall, run my life with confidence,
        • Paul says Jesus meets all my needs.
          • When you feel shame coming on, shortchanging, you, broken-hearted, you can say I am enough in Christ.
        • This is not a feel good-ism- but a power from on high. Through Christ blood I am enough!  I am free from sin and shame!  My deepest need has been met!
        • Through Christ you and God are good! No more worries, indignity, embarrassment.
        • You are set free then to deal with people in a brand new way.
          • No more manipulation, walls. You can be authentic and honest.
          • You have the power and strength from within from the Holy Spirit.
        • Process: Own It, Confess It, Receive It, Leave It, and Deal With It. Follow it and shame will not follow you.
    • So how do you deal with your problem? Specifically how do you deal with the people in your problem?
    • Answer: You now have one job to do.
    • Galatians 5:6, “All that matters is faith expressing itself through love.”
      • Just one? <>
      • Faith in Christ has removed your shame and guilt. You and God are good.  You are whole-hearted in Christ.
      • You are to express that love to those around you. That is your one job.
    • All that matters is you love people- even the problem people- as Jesus loved you.
    • Shame causes us to blame, belittle, manipulate. With shame gone you are left with one thing to do- love them like Jesus loved you.


  • Next Week: The last part of the process: Love It
    • Very practical- how do you love others like Jesus has loved you?
    • Loving others is what a church should be known for above anything else.
    • It is all that matters. It is what has been taught from the very beginning.
  • So, when it comes to your problem you need to own it, then confess it (in prayer), receive it (through gratitude), leave it (in Christ you are enough), then deal with it (expressing itself through love). Follow this process and shame will not follow you.
  • There is something empowering when you quit following shame and guilt and start being ruled with the love of Christ. <>

Prayer/Time of Reflection

  • Maybe you have been waiting for an opportunity to respond to Jesus: Today is the right time to do that. Follow Christ: Make a decision to follow him.
  • Pray w/ you and love on you. / Be a part mission partner.

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