We are in this series of blogs on how to decrease conflict in your life. Today we are in our third installment of the series.
3. Decrease Criticism
Philippians 2:3c says, “In humility consider others better than yourselves.” When he says better he doesn’t mean superior. He means “worthy of respect.” He says you are not to put people down, you treat them bette then yourself.
This is a radical concept. Treat others better then yourself? Humility means considering them better? His the exact opposite then the culture we live in. We are full of people who think they are better than someone else. Our society has elevated selfishness to an art form, a character quality to behold, not reject!
Paul says to decrease criticism because when you are critical you’re thinking you are better than other people.
Humility is not obtained on how you think about yourself. It is judged on how you treat other people. Your focus isn’t you. It’s not that you think less of yourself. It’s just that you treat others better then yourself. Your focus is on other people. You are other centered instead of self-centered. If you think you are humble, you aren’t! The humble person doesn’t even know it because they are focused on everyone else.
James 4:11-12 says, “Anyone who speaks against his brother or judges him speaks against the Law and judges it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge. Who are you to judge your neighbor?” Anytime I judge somebody else, I’m playing God. Who are you to judge your neighbor, or Linsey Lohan for that matter? You don’t know their motives or their background. The problem is it is fun to criticize. We like to criticize and pick faults of other people (especially celebrities) because it makes us feel superior. The Bible says the exact opposite. If you want to get rid of conflict in your life then you must decrease criticism. Stop judging other people. Don’t fail to value other people. Treat them with MORE respect than what they deserve.