Dealing With Loneliness

In our fast paced world of connections through twitter, facebook, e-mail, and cell phones we can still find ourselves living in a very lonely world.  If you are struggling with loneliness then here are some Biblical thoughts on the issue.

You need to understand that for most people, lonliness is temporary.  It is not uncommon for someone to have times in their life when they are lonely.  I want to be clear that I am not talking about clinical depression, but lonliness that comes from a circumstance you are in: such as having a loved one overseas, a divorce, or being single with a longing to get married.  It is not something you will have your entire life.  It’s like a tunnel, there is a beginning and and end.

1 Peter 1:6 says, “There is wonderful joy ahead, even though the going is rough down here.”  Life is tough.  He says you are going to go through tough times but there is joy ahead, and that joy is heaven.  Don’t get discouraged.  Even if you live for 80 or 90 years and have this problem your entire life you have to realize how insignificant that is to the trillions of years of heaven!  In heaven there will be no loneliness because we will be perfectly connected to our Father in heaven.

Loneliness may be temporary, but how do you deal with it?  David said, “I will fear no evil, for you are with me, your rod and staff, they comfort me.”

1. Refuse to Be Discouraged.  David said I will fear no evil.  That implies a choice.  It is a decision.  You are feeling lonely.  You have to deal with it.  You’re looking at the all the negatives.  That is a choice.  You can also choose to not let lonliness defeat you.

How do you do that?  By choosing to focus on God’s power rather than your problem.  Colossians 1:11 says, “God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient.”  Human energy runs out.  God’s energy does not.

2. Remember That God is With Me.  David said, “For you will be with me.”  God promises his presence.  You are not in this predicament by yourself.  Isaiah 43:2 says, “When you go throught the deep waters and trouble, I will be with you.  When you go through the rivers of difficulty, you will not drown.”  God is with you.

3. I Rely on God’s Protection and Guidance.  David notes that God’s rod and staff give him comfort.  The rod was used to defend the flock of sheep from danger.   The staff was used to guide and give comfort to the sheep.  David is noting that the Good Shepherd is fighting for you and he is using His staff to lift you up when you are down.  You may not realize it because you are in darkness right now but God is working on your behalf!  It reminds me of the old Audio Adrenaline song, I Get Down, but He Lifts Me Up!

Just remember that when you are going through the shadows of life, there has to be a light somewhere.


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