Sunday’s Message Outline: Myth-Quoted: God wants me to be happy.


  • Good stuff @ Celebration
  • Myth: I know it is not right but it makes me happy and God wants me to be happy. <above all else>
    • Psalm 97:12, “May all who are godly be happy!”
  • Problem: Happiness driven by appetite <>
  • Traits of Appetites:
    • It is a desires that demands satisfaction. <not bad>
    • It is triggered when we lack nourishment. <>
    • It let’s us know we are not full-filled.
    • It can be stimulated when you are not hungry.
    • It is good since it alerts our lack of something.
  • Review
  • Problem: Appetites are never satisfied <food>
    • Dream job, home, marriage, children, single, stuff, relationship, moved.
  • God problem of attaching God to your happiness appetite: God becomes your servant- beneath you.
    • You reduce him.
    • People quit the faith (25 years), marriage
    • God doesn’t exist to make you happy.
    • Wrong thinking puts you in the wrong place.
  • God doesnt always want you to be happy!
    • Wrong or unwise, sinful or stupid
    • Sexual slavery, lying, Baltimore
  • So what does God desire?


  • I Peter- Background
  • 1 Peter 1:13-16
    • Therefore
      • 1 Peter 1:3-4
      • What happened? God’s mercy, Easter <>
      • It will never pass away (Inheritance- all needs met what would be an inheritance)
      • We respond to God’s grace- not appetites
    • 1 PT 1:13 <>
      • Jesus ascension, rose again, coming back
      • Hope not in bigger, better, newer, but Jesus’
    • 1 PT 1:14
      • Response mode- God’s children
      • Do not conform (Ouch!)
        • Evil – outside God’s will
        • Ignorance – of God’s grace
      • Ungodly things we do to pursue happiness
      • We justify ungodly things for happiness.
        • Hate job- tell boss to shove it! <>
        • Spouse not meeting needs- look at this even though I know it’s wrong and hurtful.
        • Premarital sex (God’s position) lovemaking is a gift from God for marriage.
          • Christian s let that go because they are responding to loneliness and not God’s grace. We justify because of whatever- happiness!
        • Commercials- Shake weight, miracle lotion, snuggie, bathtubs
        • Entertainment- It’s filthy but it’s funny! <> Magic Mike, filthiness.  Are you letting filth entertain you?
        • You might make fun of me (I would too if I wasn’t a Christian).
          • As a Christian you have a higher calling, different standard.
          • The calling is holiness, not happiness.
        • 1 Peter 1:15-16
          • Too many times we replace the word for holiness with happiness.
          • Holiness = proper response to the grace of God. (Tennis ball)
            • Like a ball that changes direction when it hits the floor, so our life and behavior changes when it comes in contact with God’s grace.
            • What does Holiness look like?


  • 1 Peter 2:1-3 (Therefore)
    • The reason we fight, quarrel, complain is because we do not have what we want.
    • It causes us to be deceitful, self-centered, and lack control, unhappiness.
    • We do not have what we want out of a marriage, job, school, parents, etc.
    • Quit putting your hope in things that disappoint.
    • Crave Spiritual milk- never get far from the cross.
      • A baby always stays near his mother.
    • You seek holiness because God is good and that is something better than any pursuit of happiness can give you. Don’t be driven by your appetites, but by God’s delight.  Learn to live in response to God’s grace and not your craving.  The myth is I know it’s not right but it makes me happy and God wants me to be happy.  We just make that up.  The truth is God wants you to be holy, because he is holy.  It is better to be holy than it is to be happy because God is good.



  • God doesn’t want your holiness, he wants to give you his holiness. <>
  • Matthew 7:21, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.”
  • It is God’s will this morning for you to accept his Son Jesus Christ. In his great mercy… 1 Peter 1:3
  • Others, I want to make C3 my home.
  • You may need prayer about your response to God’s grace. The trick is not try to do better, but to simply receive it and then bounce.

Holiness: A New Definition

Yesterday I talked about God’s desire for his followers to be a holy people.  This is a constant theme of the scriptures.  Exodus 22:31, “You are to be my holy people.”  Holiness is defined in Deuteronomy 13:18 as doing right in the Lord’s eyes.  1 Thessalonians 4:3 tells us that it is God’s will that you be sanctified.  The Apostle Peter tells Christians to live holy and godly lives. 1 Peter 3:11.

Why this emphasis on holiness?  The answer is simple: God is holy.   We are called to be holy because God is holy.  It is natural that you resemble the one you follow.  The more you follow Jesus the more holy you will become.

Holiness is most visible not in your church attendance, or even in how many things you don’t do, but in how you treat others.  Paul says in Galatians 5:6 that all that matters is you love others like Jesus loved you.  For many people Christian means that’s the guy who will point out what’s wrong with you instead of being the guy who is for you.  Of all the social injustices Jesus could have spoken against in his day the one he spoke against the most was the religious leaders who constantly pointed out what was wrong with everyone else.  He didn’t want to be known as that guy, but rather as the guy who is light of the world.  What would it look like if we defined holiness not in what we do wrong but in striving to be the light of the world?  How would that change your life, your church, your family, your community?

Myth Guided: Myth #2: The church is here to serve me. (My notes from Paul’s message Sunday)

Today’s Myth: The church is here to serve me.


  • I want the truth even if it challenges me.
  • We live in a comfort culture.
  • Many churches have Cruise Ship Christians
    • They want to be entertained, served, and fed by their church.
    • They see the church from a consumer point of view.
  • What the world needs is mission minded Christians.
    • Just as God sent Jesus to serve he hs called us to serve.
    • Do you have a missionary mindset in your world? Home? Work? Etc.
    • Many Christians have traded a missionary mindset for a man made religion.

Body: The Book of Acts

  • Acts is not a book of stories to inspire but rather acts to emulate.
  • Acts 1:4-5: Jesus said the Apostles needed power from the Holy Spirit.
  • Acts 2:1-4; 41: Peter preached and 3000 people were saved. They were tore up from the floor up!
  • Acts 3:1-8: Peter and John healed others.
  • Acts 4:1-4: Peter in prison but still preached the Gospel. He was on a mission.
  • Acts 5:40-42: They never stopped sharing the Gospel. There are people in the world that say they are persecuted if the preacher doesn’t say hello to them.  That is not persecution people!
  • Acts 16:16-26: Paul and the slave girl. Paul came to cease and desist the work of the enemy.
  • Acts 17:6-8: The church had turned the world upside down.


  • Do we resemble the book of Acts or a Wal-Mart?
  • Speak life into your relationships!
  • We are not a cruise ship, but a battleship! Where every person on board has a vital role in the mission.

What’s Your Dream in the next 5 years?

Where will your life be in 5 years?  How old will you be in 2020?  How much closer will you be to retirement?  Paying off your house?  What age will your children be going through?  Will they be in school?  Will they be graduating?  Will you be married?  Single?

Now, think about your church family here at Celebration.  What dream could you have for C3 in five years?  If Celebration was having the most significant impact you could imagine in 5 years what would that look like?  What would it look like for your family, marriage, your kids?  If you are single what would your life like in your circle of friends?

What would that look like for your community?  Chuckatuck?  Downtown Suffolk? Smithfield?  The Peninsula? Holland?  North Suffolk? Chesapeake?

What would that look like for our campus in Chuckatuck?  How could we effectively use the campus in 5 years if we don’t build?  If we do?

On May 31st we are starting The Dream Project.  Over the course of this summer we want to hear your God given dreams for Celebration and beyond.  The goal is hear God speak through his people.  The Elders and staff will be listening!

Message Outline: Myth-Guided. Part 1: Mythed Alliances


  • New series <>
  • Today’s myth (Messed up marriages, families)
  • For single looking to get married (game, married)


  • Problem: Making a promise means a great marriage. <>
    • Promise way out of problems
    • Couples make promises they cannot keep
  • You meet someone special<click, magic, sex, kindness, no one else loved like this, I found the the right person!
  • Myth: If I find the right person then everything will be all right.
  • Married: Not right person, fail you (nag, complain, workaholic), complicated life, the kaki’s are no longer cute. How do you fix it?
  • Irresponsible: Guys- let’s have sex! (emotional connection)
    • Girls (Have a baby) Guys yea more sex!
    • Bright idea! Baby crying at 2 AM, dysfunctional
  • Babies have a way of taking the magic out of marriage.
  • Are you thinking: Married people are stupid.
  • Married people bought into this myth. <complicated > I need someone new, etc.
  • Marriage was never meant to be about magic, but the hard work of actually mating.
  • People say, “I’ve been married a couple times and I’ll get it right this time.” Not if you believe this myth!
  • Marrying the right person never works because no one is the right person all of the time.
  • There is something better…


  • The law of magnetism: You attract who you are, not who you want. <Bible doesn’t>
  • People like being around people that are like them.
  • Colossians 3:8, 12-14, getting ready for a date, cleaned up.
  • Colossians 3:8
    • Don’t bring this into your relationship.
    • Don’t think of marriage as a new beginning < promises, kindness and compassion, >
    • Once the magic is gone this stuff shows up!
    • You have to be an adult and take responsibility. (Mommy issues)
    • Deal with your anger and bitter issues. (Don’t drag, Childhood)
    • Marriage isn’t for children so don’t bring your childhood into it!
    • If you attempt to build intimacy with a person before youve done the hard work of becoming whole and healthy person, every relationship will be an attempt to complete the hole in your heart. Parrot
    • ILL: Problem w/ Parent. Parents failed you.
      • The problems you had with Mom and Dad get transferred to your spouse (Don’t see it)
      • The spouse catches all this drama
      • ILL: All Ii said is I want to be early and you bit their head off. Why the over reaction? <>
      • Too many months and thousands of dollars later a great marriage disintegrates because of mommy issues. (Divorced)
    • Be responsible and get over your anger issues.
    • Magical marriages only exist at Disney. Real marriage is not make believe.
  • Verse 12: Put on these clothes
    • Compassion= Tenderness when one is hurting.
      • Engaged couple: WE do the compassion thing really well.
      • It changes when the hurt and pain show up. Anger and vitriol.
      • Hurt people hurt people. Often those we are closest too.
      • Can you show compassion when you don’t feel like it, when you are hurting.
      • ILL: Jesus
      • Marriage is sometimes a ‘ It’s not for kids.
      • Don’t think they are compassionate enough for the both of us. I just do it in return.
      • Compassion never works when you wait for the other person to go first.
    • Kindness- love is considerate.
      • It takes into consideration how the other person is feeling all the time.
      • Work on it now! Don’t wait until you are married to find out you are not good at this.
      • People end up divorcing over this stuff because they didn’t practice it beforehand and now they are married and in trouble.
    • Humility- Parents have split over this.
      • In a relationship the opposite of humility is not pride but envy.
      • I don’t feel good about myself so I will bring you down.
      • ILL: One up story
      • You just can’t listen, say “wow” and shut up. Thank you and shut up.
      • More money? stuck with kids, popular, say wow and shut up.
      • Respect and love your wife more than yourself.
    • Gentleness- Strength Under Pressure (even when emotions are high)
      • Sober, control, restraint, when emotions are boiling.
      • What if your family had this trait and not throwing China?
    • Patience- Love never pressures the other person
      • Love creates space and margin
      • If you are being pressured (or vice versa) then you are not loving.
      • You have to develop patience over time- duh?
      • ILL: Verse 14
        • Don’t le the grievance persist. Work it out patiently.
        • Some problems take months or years to work out. Give your mate space to work it out.
        • To be a forgiving mate get rid of the hate!
      • Review: Isn’t this the kind of person you want to be married too? The be that kind of person!
  • Marriage is not magic. It is not Disney.  It’s not make believe.  Marriage is for adults and it’s real life.
  • Don’t believe the myth: If I find the right person then I’ll be alright. Follow the law of magnetism: You attract who you are, not who you want.
  • Get rid fo the anger issues. Get cleaned up <>
  • Put on some great clothes: Review
  • You have the responsibility to be the right person for your future mate.
  • Don’t buy into the myth that if you find the right person everything will be alright. That will fall apart in a marriage.  Buy into the law of magnetism: You attract who you are, not who you want.



Church Building Report Card April 2015

Church Building Report Card

April 2015


Malcolm shared with us 5 criteria CFR likes to be in healthy shape before going into a fundraising campaign.  We need these statistics to be strong order to go into the campaign.  Here is where we stand as of the end of April 2015.


    • 30% of budget to be towards ministry.
      • Status: Unchanged
      • 84% of our 2015 budget goes to administrative costs (rent, insurance, land payment, salaries)
      • 16% is dedicated to ministry
      • Unless we revise the 2015 budget this number is set for the remainder of the year.
    • The long term debt ratio is at $3-5000 per attendee.
      • We averaged 1 people for the month of January.
  • If you take $2,000,000 and divide it by 133 you get $15,038 per attendee.  
    • Meeting the budget or surpassing the budget in giving.
      • Our Monthly Budget need is: 17,333.33 (208,000 divided by 12)
        • April Giving: $14696
        • May Giving: $13616
        • June Giving: 18,223
        • July Giving: $10.906
        • August Giving: 20372
        • September Giving: 18914
        • October Giving: n/a
        • November Giving: 15984
        • December: n/a
        • January 2015: 19350
        • February 2015: 15,775
        • March 2015: 20,713.82
  • April 2015: 15,092
    • Trending upward in attendance.
      • Avg Att January: 114
      • Avg Att February: 113
      • Avg Att March: 124
      • Avg Att for April: 133 (196 for Easter)
      • Avg Attendance for May: 111 (88 in 2013)
      • Avg for June: 113 (100 in 2013)
      • Avg for July: 104 (97 in 2013)
      • Avg for August: 104 (97 in 2013)
      • Avg for September: 112 (99 in 2013)
      • Avg for October: 104 (106 in 2013)
      • Avg for November: 97 (100 in 2013)
      • Avg for December: 112 (120 in 2013)
  • Avg for JAnuary 2015: 119 .
      • Avg for February 2015: 122
      • Avg for March 2015: 124
  • Avg for April 2015: 133
  • Debt to Loan Ratio
    • We owe approximately $53,000 on the land and the land was independently assessed at $340,000 giving us an equity of $287,000 .  So this number is strong.
    • We can use the equity in the land as a down payment on the building.

Message Notes- Part 3 of the Circle: Love It


  • Review Series
    • Circle = Problem <>
    • Own It (Don’t blame)
    • Confess It <>, Receive It <>, Leave It <>, Deal With It <Galatians 5:6, all that matters is faith expressing itself through love.>
    • If you follow this process shame and guilt will not follow you
    • Today: Love It!
  • Love It
    • Colossians 3:13, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” He went first <>
      • “While we were sinners Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
    • “Accept one another then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Romans 15:7.
      • Jesus accepted you while you were unacceptable.
      • What iof every Christian practiced this? Racism, sexism, discrimination, etc.  gone!
    • Review: How do you love without shame or guilt?


  • Marriage
    • Ephesians 5:20, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
      • Key: Out defer each other (Fights not about rights, but service)
      • We think we will be run ragged is we do this?
        • How happy w/ that attitude? Does that make your spouse feel loved?
      • Guys- it says wives submit to your husband (stay out of business)
      • Husbands (Perfect/ Jesus came to serve not to be served.
    • What if Christian marriages got this right? No one split up because they served each other too much.
  • Single? You attract who you are so be the kind of person you want to marry. / Next week.
  • Work
    • Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men.”
    • Philippians 2:3 and 14, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others. Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure.”
    • What if your boss had this attitude towards you? Employees had this attitude towards their boss/company?
    • Everyone would want to work for a Christian / hire a Christian.
    • ILL: Truck drivers > Blessing bags / Prayer business cards /faith based cards /Prepare meals / Insprational verses on desktop / Coach >> devotions / Business owner used Proverbs for training / Firefighter praying with victims
  • Review: Express your faith through love
  • Spirituality
    • Not charaismatic preachers, Bible knowledge, doctrine, or political stances.
    • It’s this verse and others like it, “The entire law (your spirituality) is fulfilled in keeping one commandment: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5:14.
    • Taught from the very beginning- The Apostle John
    • Go Groups and not Life Groups
    • Holiness is defined by dirty hands. Jesus didn’t say congregate with my love but agitate the world with my love!
  • Problem People
    • Romans 12:14; 17-21 tells us what to do, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
  • In short, look out for every opportunity to show God’s love.


  • Story of preacher Dave meeting up with Netty at the Diner
  • All that matters is our faith expressed through love
  • Review: forgive, accept
  • Review process: Own It, Confess It, Receive It, Leave It, Deal With It, Love It
  • Follow this process and shame and guilt will not follow you.